Salt in the wound

Sometimes we have things in our life that hurt a lot.

I like to think of difficult things in pictures, not because I am trying to be clever or poetic but because I think as humans we cope better with difficult things when we are able to capture them in imagery or at least try to.

I like to think of the painful things in our life as wounds. You know, the really painful thing that maybe you think about first thing in the morning, or that re-opens every so often and causes you stabs of hurt as you go to buy a sausage roll in Greggs (they always come at the randomest times). Maybe we feel hard on ourselves because we thought we had already done the healing work for those wounds and bandaged them up, left a little scar but moved on!

And suddenly without warning, the wound re-opens and a big old salt shaker is being crushed into the gap. Ouch.

This can really suck. I don’t know what your wound is and it doesn’t really matter, but I know it sucks whatever it may be.

I usually feel frustrated when this happens, that I have managed weeks or months or even years without feeling pain over that specific thing or person or event, and then BOOM in comes the ripping of the skin and the salt and the ouchies.

But maybe this is what makes us human?

I remember as a kid I would get these nicks in my fingers all the time, usually from scrabbling about in the playground and digging in dirt and possibly never washing my hands after going to the toilet (seriously, what kid uses soap?). The nicks would be tiny but gradually they would start to really, really hurt. Like, an abnormal amount for such a tiny cut. The cut would balloon up slightly and fill with yellow liquid and I would test myself by seeing how hard I could push it before I cried in pain.

The only thing that healed it was salt. I would push my finger into a cup of salt water, or if I was feeling especially masochistic I would just roll the wound directly into a saucer of salt and feel the pain reach an acute height of awfulness.

Then it would suddenly stop. The pain would go and the little infection would deflate. The salt had healed it.

Maybe that is why some things in our lives re-open at the worst possible time, when we feel we can’t see any way through because we are crying in Gregg’s/TK Maxx/the stationary aisle at Tesco/insert other random place to cry.

There is still healing, there is still a bit of infection the salt didn’t get to the first time. We would never choose to feel pain (who does, who likes pain??) but if we don’t get the infection out we will never be able to move forward.

So take heart- if you are feeling old wounds re-opening today, you are human, you are healing and let the salt do it’s work so you can be free.

People Watching

At the risk of sounding like a stalker, I have always loved people watching. Especially during the last year when we have all been at home more I have noticed the same people walking past my house and often make stories in my head for what kind of lives they might have. Sometimes I want an excuse to say hi or talk to them but then I think, how easy is it really to talk to strangers in the street?

The lady who walks to Tesco every day and wears her hair in a grey bun on top of her head. She is always on her own and stops to look at the flowers in our garden. One time I was visiting a Syrian family nearby for work and she walked past and spoke to the husband in Italian.

Dog walkers, who I recognise by their dogs rather than by them. The black lab puppy with the guy who has silver hair, the very old and slow black lab with the guy who has an overgrown front garden and always stops to say hello, the ladies who push their chihuahuas round in special dog prams and stop for smoke breaks.

The security guard outside Tesco who sees me going in to buy chocolate or Diet Coke and I always nod at.

The kids across the street that spent the summer riding their bikes up and down, kicking footballs into the road and ask if they can pet Finley (he barks every time)

Who are your local strangers that have become lockdown neighbours?

Object Memory

It has been a strange few years.

I haven’t written on here for a while and when I read back through my old posts, I felt like I was reading the thoughts of a different person.

Enough has been said about the ‘pandemic’ by writers and I don’t plan on adding to it.

I want to write. I talk about writing 99% of the time and 1% actually doing it. So this blog is going to become a space where I can actually write, however small, every single day without fail. If people read it, then that is great but if not, I will do it anyway.

If you have a topic you would like me to write about please send me a message and I will try to do it, although everything I write will be purely opinion and thought, not a platform for political persuading or leaning.

So here goes!

I got a new job this week. I will be working with young people who have been adopted or in the care system at some point in their lives. I am beyond excited and nervous to be doing it because I know what a massive privilege and responsibility it will be. It is a storytelling project of sorts, where I will be supporting young people to bring together the narrative of their lives from birth to now, sitting alongside them as they piece together fragments of memory and experience into a narrative that they can hold and own for themselves, however they want to. I have so much to learn.

It got me thinking about childhood and memory. One of the projects put together around young people and care journeys was a digital storytelling project titled ‘Trove’, wherein researchers gathered adopted children and their carers and parents to take an object that was special to them from childhood and place it in a digital format. It might be a photo of a sippy cup that was treasured, or a Winnie the Pooh toy or a blanket that has holes the size of a hand in it now. It doesn’t matter, if it holds weight and memory then it goes in. The idea is that when children want to, they can go to the digital box and look at the object and process whatever feelings they are having in their own time.

What objects hold weight for you from childhood? Do you still have them or just the memory?

Here are some of mine:

A Peter Rabbit soft toy that I was given as a baby. At the age of 33, I have it sitting on my bed and some nights it ends up curled under my elbow as I sleep. I don’t remember who gave it to me but it makes me feel calm when I see it.

Certain sweets and ice lollies. My childhood summers were spent at a caravan in Northern Ireland, six weeks by the sea cycling to and fro from the local corner shop. So, these sweets remind me of being small and brave and curious about everything. Hubba Bubba, Bubbalicious, penny sweets, Pear Picking Porky, Brunch lolly, Space Invaders.

The board game Misfits.

Jellie shoes.

Pedal pushers with beads hanging off the ends of the legs.

Bunty magazines.

Strawberry flavoured kid toothpaste.

Bubble mate bubble bath with the lid like a pirate hat or a princess (can’t remember the name)

Those little bath marbles that you squished and burst in the bath.

Mood rings.

Dolphin shaped mood necklaces that changed colours.

Cassette tapes and players, namely The Beautiful South and Suzanne Vegas because those were the ones my Dad listened to on repeat.

A Barbie that had long hair you could cut off and then velcro back on.

A Barbie head you could cut the hair off and then draw all over her head.

My cousin’s old Sylvanian families, including a full Italian restaurant set I would spend hours setting up the tiny knives and forks.

A cardboard box we cut holes into to make a spaceship and sat in for hours in the driveway.

A den, one of many, including an indoor den made out of a church trestle table and a tablecloth. I didn’t leave for hours except to go to the toilet.

One of those fake joke cigarettes that puffed out talcum powder.

A motorised hand held fan that got stuck in my cousin’s hair on the way to the airport for a holiday and she had to have it cut out.

Scented nail polish/cherry flavoured lip gloss

My first pair of earrings, big gold studs that got stuck in the back of my ear when they got infected.

A Care Bear toy with a rainbow belly (this got chewed by the dog a few years ago)

What are yours?

Leaning in to Uncertainty

January is a tough month for a lot of us. It’s cold, rainy, everybody wishes they were still wrapped in a blanket eating sausage rolls and watching old movies. The lack of sunlight is statistically guaranteed to lower (most of) our moods. Look at Sweden and Norway, they don’t have increased rates of depression and mental health problems in winter for nothing.

But, I realised recently a lot of what has been weighing on my mind and heart is the age-old dilemma of uncertainty.

I don’t like it. I like things to be known at all times, and if they aren’t, then I work ever so hard to make them known, or stash them away in a box marked ‘DO NOT OPEN’.

January brings with it the re-evaluation of life, and like it or not, turning 30 this year has forced me to take an inventory of what I’m doing. As hard as I tried not to get sucked into the ‘re-invent your life after Christmas’ nonsense, it’s there, seeping into my dreams and thoughts as I lie awake at 3am, wondering if finally at 29 my ability to always sleep well was waning.

I pondered on my breathlessness as I ran for the train, the slight ache in my knees as I walked. Did that patch of acne on my chin ever mean to go away, or was it going to be following me through to my pension years. I realise to everyone over 30 this sounds neurotic, self-indulgent and ridiculous, but I am a believer in everything being relative. We don’t deny being a teenager sucks sometimes, so despite feeling young and grateful for being alive, turning 30 has forced me to assess a heck of a lot.

One of the things I wrestle most with is the guilt about feeling uncertain. As a Christian, I am told that God is the one true certainty. I believe this, and cling to it at times: but does this mean I am immune to uncertainty? Should I feel bad for feeling a wave of crushing anxiety when everyone around me seems to get it, and I don’t? Does it mean I am not really putting my faith in God if I get chest pains when I think about the future, or wonder if people I love will get sick? No. Resolutely, I believe uncertainty is human, and if anything it propels me to cling to God. Clinging to God is not a twee, saccharine tale of saying a prayer and feeling better, or singing a few rounds of worship songs and forgetting my anxieties. It is messy and often involves a roundabout of snotty, angry tears and a desperate need for someone to bear hug me.

I am coming to the realisation that I need to stop fighting the worries and doubts. They are part of my journey, part of me, part of what makes me human and instead of always trying to flee from that place of being tossed on the waves of anxiety, I should just allow myself to tread water and trust the buoyancy of my body. It is painful, and there are often no concrete answers: yes, God is there, He is present, but we shouldn’t make people feel that means a sort of anaesthetic feeling will wash over them. It is ok to struggle. It is not a state you must feel shame about.

These winter mornings, I am learning to accept I will have days when getting out of bed feels hard, when my body is pulsing with adrenaline and nausea for no apparent reason. I know spring will allieviate a huge amount of it. I also know that when I meet others going through it, I need to be present, touch their arm, offer a coffee (decaf?), not seek to cover it over with (yes, needed) bible verses unless I am willing to actually enter into their pain with them.

So, today I am grateful for the struggling: it reminds me to be aware of others, to see the chinks of light in the day when people step out of the difficulties and help each other. Today for me it was seeing several commuters stop and talk to the homeless people sleeping around Peckham station, gently shake them awake to check they were okay after a bitterly cold night.

Tonight, it will be the feeling of care towards myself, even love, that I got up and made it through the day and did what needed to be done. That is worth congratulating yourself for.

Poems #1

A bunch of mostly old poems. The first one is new and not really edited. It is based on a little boy I met this week at a nursery where I was temping for the day. He was three and had a beautiful face, played incessantly with the train set. I watched him making perfect circles with the track pieces, then lining up all the pieces in order of size. I guessed autism, or on the spectrum somehow. He made little eye contact with me, and I felt drawn to him and managed to gain his trust and swing him upside down a few times, much to his giggling delight (apparently I’m not supposed to do that, health and safety. It’s the best part of being a child, being swung upside down!). One other child, one of the most attention seeking children I’ve met for a while (he kept doing backward rolls and shouting ‘LADY! LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME NOW!’) told me earnestly, ‘Lady, that boy don’t speak.’

Then I saw him do something truly astonishing. He was scribbling on a piece of paper with a marker pen and he suddenly started writing letters, and as I read I saw the words ‘TESCO ORANGE JUICE’. I looked around, thinking he was copying from a nearby juice box. Nope, nothing in sight. He was writing FROM MEMORY. Then he started writing the alphabet and saying the letters. He then took my finger, and made me point to the letters as he said them. Later, as he climbed onto the snack trolley, I pointed to the letters written there on the metal, a generic brand name. He said the letters, then READ THE WORD. I was astonished. This boy clearly had a gift for language, despite everyone else’s belief that he ‘was special needs’ and ‘didn’t speak’. I marvelled at the world that must have been going on in his head, and wish I could have spent more time with him. I only hope his future teachers recognise his gift and seek to view him as a child who is capable of more than they could imagine.




Careful with your eyes,

you line up shoes in order of size.

You have no time for simple



What is a hug? Why does it hurt when I

fall down?

How can I get your talking to stop?


You see, these people know nothing

of you.

You’re memorising each and every

single thing they say, kind and not.


On a least expected day,

when they are slumped in the drum

of sameness

you’ll open your mouth


and tell the world everything it’s ever said.




The ewes that chased us into


this ring I wear as a seal.


Wild tabbies drunk

on freedom

were beasts we avoided;


no boy would kiss

a one-eyed girl.

Damp coffin-bed,


bacon frying

and sighs of love

kept us from sleep.


The bull bellowed.

I rubbed my feet against

your shins, prayed for the gap


between blanket and bed

to keep out hands

or shapes of hands.




for Granda


It could be a Golden Delicious

you hold out to me

in slow hands,


hardened by years

of holding in your heart,

one long string


of peel enough

to wind about my wrists

inherited from your beloved.


I always wondered

how you sliced it so thin,

even with a knife.



The hedgehog struggles

up the slide, startled by

something it remembers.

It cannot see down.


Blue Coat


This jacket with the Neapolitan stripes

makes me look like a Polish waitress,

pink-faced with wonder.


Little girls with braids stacked high

hug me in libraries.

It is being hugged by my mother


after a nightmare.

‘It’s the jacket,’ I say,

‘It’s my face.’


Women with fragrant names,

turmeric hands

and yams in baskets


smile at me.

I nod back, roll

a new name in my mouth.


Jazz and Bread

Jazz and bread.

Two strange bed-fellows.

Over the years, I have learned the two magically work together to lift me out of any melancholy state I find myself in.

I won’t go into detail here about my dalliances with mental health, it reads like a dry NHS pamphlet and besides, I want to talk about jazz and bread.

Listening to Jazz FM and rolling my hands into bags of flour and dough have the ability to trip wire my brain and soothe any over-fraught neurons. I discovered this by trial and error.

The jazz can’t be too sad, or slow. It has to be just erratic and random enough that the improvisation uncoils all the coiled springs in my frontal cortex. It can’t be anything I recognise easily. I have to feel like I’ve never heard it before. Big band numbers work better than solos.

It can’t be a coincidence that many famous jazz musicians battled real demons in their lives. Many African-American jazz musicians were born into a time and place where they suffered prejudice, displacement and an attack on their identities. Some turned to blues. Some jazz. Some, but not all, also turned to drugs and alcohol, surely just a symptom of their massive creative talent not finding enough of a space to fill. Creative people are the eternal self-critics and the quickest way to drown out a feeling of not being enough, is to numb it through substances.

In the colourful menagerie of noise I hear when I listen to jazz, I can imagine the musicians literally sweating and fighting to keep themselves buoyant. Their pain and sadness and anger and joy fuels the songs. They use their music to grapple with things that are too weird and difficult to talk out. Somehow, listening to Jazz reminds me I’m not alone in finding life lonely, confusing and scary at times. It is a valid part of the human experience, despite the pervading feeling everyone except you is outside frolicking in the sunshine full of endorphins. So, thanks Miles Davis, Charlie Parker, Ella Fitzgerald and Mr Coltrane, amongst others, you damn GENIUSES.

And, bread. From experience, it has to be a quick recipe, and there has to be a certain amount of kneading involved. With some friends recently on a short trip out of London, one of us decided to make bread. On realising the recipe ‘did not require kneading’, she remarked sadly ‘Oh, I needed to knead today.’

‘I’m feeling so….kneady.’

‘It feels good to be kneaded.’

A running joke that went on for about ten minutes before one of us called time.

Kneading feels GREAT. Your hands are making food, and the actions of your hands are meaning the bread will taste nicer! Some deep poetry in there that I won’t go into.

If I am in a rush, soda bread works wonders. You will generally always have the ingredients you need in the cupboard, and it will impress anyone who might pop round for tea.

Here is my favourite recipe (courtesy of BBC Recipes), accompanied by one of my favourite jazz records. Making it whilst listening to jazz is (not) optional.

You’re welcome!


MethodPreheat the oven to 400F/200C/Gas 6.Tip the flours, salt and bicarbonate of soda into a large mixing bowl and stir.Make a well in the centre and pour in the buttermilk, mixing quickly with a large fork to form a soft dough. (Depending upon the absorbency of the flour, you may need to add a little milk if the dough seems too stiff but it should not be too wet or sticky.)Turn onto a lightly floured surface and knead briefly.Form into a round and flatten the dough slightly before placing on a lightly floured baking sheet.Cut a cross on the top and bake for about 30 minutes or until the loaf sounds hollow when tapped. Cool on a wire rack.
P.S Here’s some I made earlier………

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Dear Mrs May

Dear Prime Minister Theresa May,

I am sure you are very busy at the moment, what with the tens of thousands of people banging on your front door as of today, but I feel you should hear this story.

I work in a primary school in South London, your typical multi-cultural mix of kids that is so normal in London you would not even dare to use the words ‘multi-cultural’: just, school.

I work with 5 and 6 year olds, the kind of kids that wouldn’t be out of place on Secret Life of 5 year olds, for how much they make me laugh every day (for better or for worse). They are insightful, compassionate, caring, infuriating, egotistical, vulnerable, creative, and always, always have the ability to astonish me with their thoughtfulness.

But most of all, and perhaps most frightening of all, they are sponges.

They are always watching us, and soaking up each and every thing we say or do.

Many days, before the bell goes for hometime, the teacher puts on Newsround and we all sit quietly and watch the news of the day. Today was a day like usual, and as we watched Newsround a bulletin came up of ‘Muslim Ban in America’. In kid-language (the best and wisest kind of language there is), the presenter explained in that President Trump had banned many citizens from Muslim majority countries.

One boy, who I admit sheepishly is one of my favourites for the fact he carries around a scrappy notebook that he is writing his ‘first novel’ in, turned round to a friend and said matter of factly ‘I’m Muslim.’

Then he turned back to the screen, fingers in mouth, a baby again staring up at his mother soaking in all the ‘truth’ of life being thrown his way.

And THIS is why you must stand up to this man.

I understand the logic behind ‘keeping up a good relationship’ with the US. But a few months or years (who knows?) of a cosy relationship with a powerful country is nothing compared to the dangerous seeds you are sowing into the minds of impressionable, fertile young minds.

There is also a young girl from one of the countries that has been included in the ban, a girl who speaks often of the dog and cat she had to leave behind when she fled her home. This morning, I wanted to assure her parents we as a UK do not stand with this measure, that they are welcome, that the fears of their past do not have to follow them here.

I hope and pray this will be ended, and swiftly. But if not, I hope you can come to the schools across the country and explain to the children there why religion matters, why race matters, and why certain people are deemed more important than others.

Because in their eyes, it doesn’t, and it never should.


Lydia Searle



To the woman killed a few days after Christmas for going out shopping

A few days after Christmas

as I was getting ready to go out


a woman on the radio said another woman

had been killed

no, beheaded

for going out,


I wondered,

as I got my coat and bag with money

I had earned

to go shopping

what she had done to deserve

such a sentence.

A thirty year old woman,

out to buy a loaf of bread for her children.

Or maybe, she was buying lace stockings

as a surprise for her husband

who was out of town on business.

Does it matter?

When we ask

why was she shopping

we fool ourselves into thinking we are asking

the right question,

when the only question should be

how can these faceless figures who took away

her life

be so small and weak and full of misplaced hate

(which is actually fear disguised as hate)

to be threatened by a woman





For more information about the daily reality of life in Afghanistan for women, go to these websites.

Warning: some of the articles contain distressing imagery or information. But this is also the daily reality for women over huge swathes of the Middle East.’s-rights-in-Afghanistan



I had candyfloss once….in Luxembourg.

That was what one of the kids said to me today. These kids I work with come out with some right corkers, on average ten times a day, so fast I barely have time to write them down.

My other recent favourite was when a small nursery child got hold of some polystyrene and started shredding it all over the place. It was a very windy day and before you know it the white flakes were scattering all over the playground. I think you know where this is going. Cue sixty screaming six year olds running towards the polystyrene at speed, shrieking, ‘IT’S SNOWING! SNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW! MISS SEARLE LOOOOOOOOOOOOOK.’

I barely had the heart to tell them it was just some polystyrene, until some of them started trying to lick it.

I spend a huge proportion of my waking hours with 5 and 6 year olds and it has naturally started to mould the way I look at life. I am a big believer in young children being a lot closer to the true stuff of life than adults are. As we grow, everything gets murkier. We bog ourselves/or get bogged down with stuff that, in reality, doesn’t really matter.

One of the things I’ve been pondering this week is the question of sensitivity.

I am a sensitive person. I was a sensitive child and was often called as much at school, usually not in a positive way. Being sensitive I have learnt, doesn’t mean I cry a lot (I actually hardly ever cry in day to day life.) Nor does it mean I injure myself physically a lot. Or that I am ‘weak’ or need to ‘toughen up’. It just means I sometimes feel things, or seem to feel things, a bit more than other people.

Before you start thinking, ‘OOOOH fancy pants, she FEELS more than we do, wit woo!’ I don’t mean I am better or more creative or kinder.

The way I have understood it better recently is by observing the children in my class. They are all unique, wonderful things. Some of them can barrel around the playground at speed, fall over and jump back up laughing. Others need a bit more TLC. Others still, are on the sideline, a deep look on their faces. These are the ones who often find me and put their hand in mine, ask me if they can help me walk around the playground.

A little girl who is a real gem and goes camping and hiking and kayaking and does scary stuff like sleeping out in the woods AT NIGHT, was walking alongside me today into town for our school trip. We walked past two men sleeping rough outside a shop. It was near freezing outside. She had a little look on her face, not as though she was sad, just as though deep in thought. I spotted it straight away; none of the other kids had noticed the men.

A few minutes later I said, ‘Were you noticing those two people?’ She nodded. Rather practically, she said ‘My Mum said we can help people’. I explained that it was good she noticed them, and we can help people in different ways, maybe donating to a homeless charity or finding a night shelter in winter etc.

Another girl, who I’ll call Katie, appears to be quite a sensitive child. She loves painting, struggles a bit with the other girls in the class and is very aware of when the teacher or I are stressed. She is not ‘wimpy’ or ‘weak’.

She is quietly aware of the emotional stuff going on around her.

I spoke to her Mum one evening this week, to praise her for having such a caring, thoughtful daughter. The Mum looked pleased, but also said with a slightly pained look, ‘We are trying to build resilience. Katie is hurt easily by things. We don’t want life to be too hard for her.’ I said that life may be harder, but it equally may very well be richer in so many ways. The Mum looked pained again, and smiled. I could see this was something she had possibly struggled with in her own life.

In that moment, I felt so many different emotions. I knew this kind, gentle mother had good intentions, and I actually agree with her that resilience is important. I understand it must be instinct to want to protect your children from the difficult things of life. But I also know that life is never free of suffering, and instead it is a person’s awareness and sensitivity to joy and suffering that can often exaggerate the event itself.

I think I am realising that being sensitive means you are just aware of ‘feeling’ everything. Lots of children at our school have sensory processing difficulties, which means that for various reasons, some noises, colours, textures and smells cause them to become distressed and upset. I don’t have the same level of difficulty, so am not trying to minimise the ups and downs those children face, but in many ways I can relate, as I think we all can.

If I walk through an autumn park, I will feel so overwhelmed by the colours of the leaves I will often stop and stare at them for several minutes. If I am listening to music as well, I have to turn it off. It’s too much.

If I walk past a nursing home, I feel pain for the suffering of the elderly, perhaps lonely people inside. I imagine them at the windows, looking out, wanting to leave. If I pass an old man with a stick struggling down the road,  want to weep and run away.

When I hear a child being shouted at aggressively in the street, or even crying, I want to cry. If someone slightly brushes against me on the bus, I shrink inside and feel like I can smell their skin.

If someone I work with is depressed, I feel it weighing me like a piece of lead around my neck. I want to make it better.

I often have to have naps. Especially if I have been doing a lot of socialising. We live in an extrovert focused world, and as much as I love being with friends and people I care about, I always schedule in a decent few hours complete alone time afterwards or I will burn out.

My natural instinct is to hide in massive social events. I love weddings and parties, but usually end up in the kitchen quaffing the snacks in my alone happy place and finding a cat to pet if I am not tough on myself. No-one likes small talk, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Plus, you may make a great new friend! (and not end up drinking all the punch by yourself and tripping over the cat….) I’m not shy, I just feel so overwhelmed by the noise and chat and bustle I feel like I might explode or do something crazy like get on the table and do a tap dance. TA DAH!

So often, I have desperately wanted to be ‘tougher’. Actually, what I really needed was the ability to block stuff out. I am learning how to switch off the thoughts in my head when they get too intense, or when I see an old person with a stick, instead of feeling despair I tell myself ‘they may have a lovely dinner waiting for them’. It sounds trite, but you have to learn when it’s appropriate to allow feelings in, and when you just need to barrel them over with a big broom and tell them to come back another day.

And I make sure I say NO to stuff too. As much as I love going to stuff, I am realistic. If I’ve had a very emotionally draining day, I say no. But I also push myself to say yes when it is important, such as big weddings and important birthdays. It isn’t all about me, after all.

Sensitivity has led me to have a lot of ups and downs in life, in various forms, but I still believe it has real untapped depths and treasures.

And I fully intend on celebrating the varying levels of sensitivity in the children I hang out with every day.

It would be interesting to know if anyone else has had similar thoughts/experiences.


Secret Life of 5 and 28 year olds

My most recent job as a teaching assistant in a Year 1 class, has been entertaining and revealing to the say the least.

Children have this ability to mirror our own weaknesses and flaws right back at us. Our fears and anxieties are unashamedly there, in their little tearful eyes as they are torn from their Mums or Dads at the school gates, the little cold hand in mine in the playground, always the child that ‘can’t find anyone to play with.’

We laugh off their worries, and brush aside their tears, but how quickly we forget what it was like in that jungle. The playground is still my worst nightmare; the politics of who can play with who, the barrelling over of smaller children.

Every week I battle with myself, over my job. How can I be a TA with a degree? Have I wasted my ‘intelligence’? Where is the money in it? Look at the careers of others around me? I started and left a PGCE in the space of 4 months, something which I am resolved about, but which I still have to painstakingly explain the ins and outs of to people, 10 months later. No, I don’t regret it. Yes, I feel sad about it. No, I don’t think I want to be a teacher. Yes, I still love working in a school. No, I am not a failure.

Yet equally, I know the best jobs in life are always the most overlooked by society. I have always believed that teachers and educators are disgracefully underpaid and underappreciated. Inside those classrooms, human beings are formed. Self esteem is built or crushed, the ability to persevere is sown or buried. Kindness, empathy and understanding are painstakingly taught alongside addition and phonics. The adults in the room (hopefully) model to these small, impressionable people how to resolve conflict peacefully, how to say sorry quickly and to understand the power those 5 letters have. To grapple with fairness and justice. To learn to manage their anger. To recognise they share because the world is smoother with it, not because they need to impress the teacher. That they can tell someone their biggest fears and not be rejected. That they can mess up, and no-one will make a scene. Children who are living very close to the edge, with parents with mental health difficulties, are grappling with issues much bigger than ‘what career I would like.’ It is a goal to get them through school reading, and writing, but more importantly, with a positive, self-loving outlook where they learn to be resilient, kind to others, and perhaps more importantly, kind to themselves, whatever life has thrown at them.

All of this happens in a single 6 hour school day.

And teachers are often in school for at least 10 hours.

If it was up to me, teachers would be paid double. And we can afford to shave a bit off the salaries of top execs somewhere surely.

I intend to post some of the funnier musings of children here as I go along. I can promise you it is funnier, and yet slightly more brutal than the TV show would suggest.

Be warned.